Grateful for my Husband 

It’s time for my weekly gratitude post and this week I’m feeling extra grateful for my husband. It’s still feels weird to say that word… Husband. I’m 24 years old, married, and own a home… it sure seems like I’m doing everything right.

Well there’s no way that I’d be where I am today without Blake. God had a plan for us that I never would have imagined when we first met. 7 years ago we fell in love but we were young and immature and we broke up a lot. At one point I had accepted the fact that we weren’t getting back together and during that time I was able to find out who I was without him.

After our first year of marriage I can confidently say that I would marry him over and over again given the opportunity. Marriage is not something to be taken lightly. It can be hard work and both people have to make an effort. The scary thing is that no matter how compatible you are, people change and life can get in the way. But if your relationship is worth the time and effort, you don’t give up. You evolve together and fight to make it work.

That being said, I know that all relationships are different. But here are some of the things that are important in my relationship and why I am so grateful for Blake.

 
He never lets me forget my self-worth 

– When I expressed how nervous I was for my recent job interview he told me that they would be stupid not to hire me. And when they didn’t offer me the job and I expressed how bummed I was about it, he told me that it was ok and that I’ll find something better that I will enjoy more.

He loves me regardless of my flaws 

– Nobody’s perfect, we all know this. I can be an emotional person but Blake loves me even in difficult times. When we were living in North Carolina I was starting to feel really lonely and far from home. Without a job I felt worthless, but he told me that he loved me and that he was grateful that I was there for him.

He agrees with me 

– Of course we have our disagreements at times. But for the most part we agree on what’s important. Aside from the big stuff that we usually agree on, I really love when he agrees with one of my small opinions about home decor or something else that makes me happy.

He is respectful

– Gentlemen are a rare breed these days. Blake has grown into such a polite, respectful and kind hearted man. Not only is he respectful of me but also everyone around him. It makes my heart happy to see him go out of his way to do kind things for other people. This quality is something to be revered.


If you’re married or in a relationship, I hope that your significant other makes you feel grateful in some way. Life gets crazy sometimes but it helps to have a partner to get you through it.

What or who are you grateful for this week?

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Motivation Monday #32

Happy Monday!

I hope everyone had as great of a weekend as I did. Saturday was my brothers wedding and it couldn’t have been more beautiful. It’s always a good time when you’re surrounded by family, friends, delicious food and good music (oh and free drinks are nice too)! Unfortunately the weekend seemed to fly by really fast but on the other hand, there is still plenty of celebrating for me to do!

In my family, this is the week of birthdays! My cousin Troy turns 17 today, I turn 24 tomorrow, my cousin Meghan turns 24 the next day, and my cousin Alexander turns 14 on the 25th!

I love telling people about that because I think it’s so cool and rare that my cousins and I have birthdays one day after another.

So on this particular Monday I’ll remind you that there is always something to celebrate and someone to celebrate with. Make it through your work day by reminding yourself that you’re one day closer to celebrating something, whether it’s a birthday, wedding, anniversary, graduation or any holiday, it is one day closer than it was yesterday!

Have a wonderful Monday and Happy Birthday to my awesome cousin Troy!

 

Take it from Tori #3

Today’s Topic:

Don’t forget to love yourself first

In life, if you’re lucky, you probably have a hand full of people whom you love and would do just about anything for. It’s important to keep good relationships with those who lift you up and keep your spirits high, but don’t forget to love yourself before anyone else.

And no, I’m not talking about a Justin Bieber song.

I’m talking about your mental health. It’s easy to get caught up in making sure everyone else is happy, making sure your boss is pleased or making sure that your friends are having  fun.

If you have kids, Treat yo’self girl: take a bubble bath, watch your favorite movie, have a glass of wine, do one thing each day to remind yourself that you need to be happy in order to make the kids happy.

If your relationship is taking a lot out of you lately: stake a step back, don’t forget who you are without your significant other. No matter how much you love them you can’t lose yourself in trying to make them happy. Spend a day with a friend you haven’t seen in a while or read a book and enjoy some time alone.

If your work/boss is stressing you out, start looking for other jobs: If you absolutely must keep your job, find ways to make it better. Try to make friends with coworkers or focus on what you love about the job rather than what you hate. Happiness conquers income in so many ways, sometimes the money isn’t worth the stress.

If school just won’t let you catch a break, stay focused: you are doing something great for your future. Take breaks when you can but study hard and follow your dreams.

If your family is asking a lot of you lately, stay calm: remind yourself that it’s out of love. Family drama can be the most stressful because it hurts to fight with the people you care about. Take a deep breath, it will pass. Don’t make rash decisions or say anything you might regret. You will love yourself for it later.

If you’re having a hard time with a friend, say “see you later”: A friend who causes more stress than happiness in your life may not really be the kind of friend you want to keep. If you’re not sure, then try to avoid spending so much time with them for a while and see how your life changes. If you are happier without them, don’t just say “see you later” say “Goodbye!”.

This is YOUR life. You have to do what makes you happy. Of course you should continue to make the people around you happy as well, but absolutely don’t forget about yourself.

 

 

Motivation Monday #15

Happy Monday Everyone!

Today I would like to share a couple of quotes for the married ladies out there. Even those who are in serious relationships can get a little bit of motivation out of this, I think.

I’ve been reading a book called “Letters to my Daughters The Art of Being a Wife” by Barbara Rainey. A book that I purchased specifically based on the fact that the cover is so beautiful (yes I judge books by their covers- sue me) and because it is a religiously rooted book.

I didn’t go out looking for a book about marriage to help me with my problems, especially because my married life is perfectly fine (so far-haha). But I figured that maybe I could get something out of it for future reference, and after only 65 out of 222 pages I have already read many helpful tips and anecdotes on marriage.

The quotes I am sharing today are in reference to the differences that a husband and wife may struggle with during their marriage.

“Our differences are exactly the ingredients God wanted to use to grow each of us into a better reflection of His image”

“Differences can feel impossible, and even though many will never go away, God can still create beauty and joy in your marriage. So embrace your differences. See them as gifts from God to expand your understanding of Him and His design for your life.”

The author compares marriage to baking a cake, saying that each partner brings a different part of the recipe and together they create a final product, but it takes time and most importantly patience to get it right.

This book is filled with inspiring and helpful marriage advice for christian wives and I would definitely recommend it!

Have a beautiful Monday!

Motivation Monday #13

On this final Monday of March 2016, I would like to provide motivation by reminding you that you can do anything you set your mind to, you just have to want it enough.

My husband is a constant reminder of that. As if the job he chose for himself wasn’t challenging enough, he is now 8 months into a fast paced and incredibly difficult medical course with one month to go until he is sent on his way to get hands-on experience in a hospital.

This is the guy who goofed off in high school and barely graduated. He has no doubt been through more than any person his age should ever have to endure but has always come out on top. His positive attitude and perseverance are what have gotten him to where he is today.

He is the reason that I believe that anyone can turn their life into something they are proud of.

I have not yet figured out what my passion will be in life. Whether I will find a career that I love, create a business of my own, or have children and dedicate my time to them, but I do know that he will be by my side supporting me every step of the way.

It always helps to surround yourself with those who love you, believe in you, and will support your goals no matter what. So figure out what you want your life to be about but don’t forget what/who matters most.

Happy Monday!

Blake, if you’re reading this- I love you 🙂

Home is wherever I’m with you

After two and a half weeks of quality family time, too much food and way too many drinks, we are finally back home.

It feels weird to call this place home because I think of my hometown as my real home. After the past couple of weeks however, I realize that this is my home now.

Blake and I both crawled into bed after our long day of multiple car and airplane rides, looked at each other and said that it felt good to be home. We agreed that we’re still not fond of the city we live in or the distance from family and friends but we have come to love the home that we’ve created for ourselves.

Since our time here is only temporary, I never thought I would consider this place to be my home. Growing up means leaving the house that you’ve been used to for your whole life and creating a new one for yourself and I have to admit that it’s a really weird but good feeling.

With your own home, you have the opportunity to completely invent your space and everything about it becomes a piece of you. So although we weren’t very happy about coming back, it does make me feel good to be back in our own space.

These next few months will go by fast and this will never be our home again after that. This place has already taught us so much and I’m exited to see what else we will learn from the remainder of our time here.

2016 will be a great year!