Take it from Tori #3

Today’s Topic:

Don’t forget to love yourself first

In life, if you’re lucky, you probably have a hand full of people whom you love and would do just about anything for. It’s important to keep good relationships with those who lift you up and keep your spirits high, but don’t forget to love yourself before anyone else.

And no, I’m not talking about a Justin Bieber song.

I’m talking about your mental health. It’s easy to get caught up in making sure everyone else is happy, making sure your boss is pleased or making sure that your friends are having  fun.

If you have kids, Treat yo’self girl: take a bubble bath, watch your favorite movie, have a glass of wine, do one thing each day to remind yourself that you need to be happy in order to make the kids happy.

If your relationship is taking a lot out of you lately: stake a step back, don’t forget who you are without your significant other. No matter how much you love them you can’t lose yourself in trying to make them happy. Spend a day with a friend you haven’t seen in a while or read a book and enjoy some time alone.

If your work/boss is stressing you out, start looking for other jobs: If you absolutely must keep your job, find ways to make it better. Try to make friends with coworkers or focus on what you love about the job rather than what you hate. Happiness conquers income in so many ways, sometimes the money isn’t worth the stress.

If school just won’t let you catch a break, stay focused: you are doing something great for your future. Take breaks when you can but study hard and follow your dreams.

If your family is asking a lot of you lately, stay calm: remind yourself that it’s out of love. Family drama can be the most stressful because it hurts to fight with the people you care about. Take a deep breath, it will pass. Don’t make rash decisions or say anything you might regret. You will love yourself for it later.

If you’re having a hard time with a friend, say “see you later”: A friend who causes more stress than happiness in your life may not really be the kind of friend you want to keep. If you’re not sure, then try to avoid spending so much time with them for a while and see how your life changes. If you are happier without them, don’t just say “see you later” say “Goodbye!”.

This is YOUR life. You have to do what makes you happy. Of course you should continue to make the people around you happy as well, but absolutely don’t forget about yourself.



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